Configure VM services and fix auth flow

- point MySQL and Whisper settings to the VM
- add VM MySQL bootstrap scripts and docs
- allow LAN Vite origins for CORS
- fix Express 5 validation assignment crash
- allow login with username or email
- prevent recursive auth refresh retries

.gitignore

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+# Logs
+logs
+*.log
+npm-debug.log*
+yarn-debug.log*
+yarn-error.log*
+pnpm-debug.log*
+lerna-debug.log*
+
+node_modules
+dist
+frontend/dist
+backend/.tmp
+/storage
+dist-ssr
+.output
+.vinxi
+.tanstack/**
+.nitro
+*.local
+.env
+
+# Editor directories and files
+.vscode/*
+!.vscode/extensions.json
+.idea
+.DS_Store
+*.suo
+*.ntvs*
+*.njsproj
+*.sln
+*.sw?